Why Some Friendships Don’t Last Forever

One of the weirdest parts about growing up is realizing that some people you thought would be in your life forever… just aren’t.

Sometimes there’s a huge argument. Sometimes there isn’t. Sometimes you just stop texting as much, stop sitting together, stop telling each other everything, and suddenly the friendship feels completely different.

This actually happened to me not that long ago.

I used to have a friend group. Let’s call one girl Amilia and the other Candy.

Amilia and I were in dance club together, and honestly, we fought a lot. She could be really bossy, and I hate feeling like someone is trying to control everyone when we’re supposed to just be a group of friends. We still stayed friends, but there was always tension between us.

Then there was Candy.

Candy and I were super close. She was crazy like me, we liked a lot of the same things, and I really thought of her as one of my best friends.

But after about two years, something suddenly changed.

Amilia started acting like she hated me, and instead of staying neutral or talking to me about what was happening, Candy followed her. They both walked away from me like I suddenly meant nothing to them.

That part hurt.

It became even worse when boys in my class started asking questions and gossiping about what happened. When something already hurts, having other people watch it happen and talk about it makes everything feel so much bigger.

For a while, I started being alone. I didn’t really want to talk to anyone.

And that’s when I understood what loneliness actually feels like.

But after some time, I started thinking differently.

School feels like your whole world when you’re living in it, but one day, a lot of the people around you right now might just become memories. In a few years, I might barely remember some of the arguments that felt so important at the time.

So instead of spending all my energy thinking about people who walked away, I started putting that energy into myself.

I started thinking about what I want, what kind of person I want to become, what I can improve, and how I can take better care of myself.

And honestly, I think I grew up mentally because of it.

Now when people say “BFF — best friends forever,” I kind of doubt the “forever” part.

But who really knows?

Maybe some friendships do last forever. Maybe some are only meant to stay for one part of your life.

Either way, I think the important part is not forcing people to stay.

Sometimes losing people teaches you how to find yourself again.